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Alert alert Water Cooler discussion members! We're talking about rejection, and I hope no one has a lot of experience in this area but we're talking about it and if you do (and I hope you don't) we need your input. This is breaking news... we've got job searches going on and well, you know how it goes.
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Hey! I have an avatar now! Yeah! Did you do that for me Alice? Or was it magic?
Alice Grevet on Saturday, 01 May 2010 14:08
Alice Grevet on Saturday, 01 May 2010 14:08I did that!!! I'm a sneaky little thing. Feel free to change it if you want but I want to see your face :-)
Saturday, 01 May 2010 14:07
Rejection is a word that should be eliminated from our vocabulary because it's a a word that causes so much pain.In my case I had been rejected most of my life until I decided to look at in a differant way and I realised it wasn't that I was being rejected but it was my own self judgement telling me I wasn't good enough.So I dropped the measuring tape in all ways.It's when you give "rejection" meaning it wiil affect you ortherwise it just a meaningless word.
Dianne Henning on Tuesday, 13 April 2010 20:01Alice Grevet on Tuesday, 13 April 2010 20:03
Dianne Henning on Tuesday, 13 April 2010 20:01"but it was my own self judgement telling me I wasn't good enough"
Wow. Dropping the measuring tape. Woof. Thank you.
Alice Grevet on Tuesday, 13 April 2010 20:03Let's eliminate rejection! The world will be a better place. Thank you for your inspiring words Hantawi!
Tuesday, 13 April 2010 19:57
Thanks for all your suggestions. Here are some of the things I try to do:
1) I move on, but I try to accept the rejection head on by thanking the person for their time and consideration. If the company/job was highly desirable from my perspective I always ask them to consider me for any future opportunities.
2) I switch quickly to something I enjoy and can accomplish (Many of you said this and it is very important).
3) After some time and after I have engaged with other job opportunities, I reflect on the job interview process to determine if there were clear reason why I was rejected. If it something that I could do differently I want to know for future opportunities.
JayAlice Grevet on Monday, 12 April 2010 20:39
1) I move on, but I try to accept the rejection head on by thanking the person for their time and consideration. If the company/job was highly desirable from my perspective I always ask them to consider me for any future opportunities.
2) I switch quickly to something I enjoy and can accomplish (Many of you said this and it is very important).
3) After some time and after I have engaged with other job opportunities, I reflect on the job interview process to determine if there were clear reason why I was rejected. If it something that I could do differently I want to know for future opportunities.
Jay
Alice Grevet on Monday, 12 April 2010 20:393) makes a good point. We may all need to learn from the rejection, and if the need for some kind of change or initiative comes out of it, it is important to look it in the face. Good point Jay.
Monday, 12 April 2010 00:55
On of my favorite sayings is "mind over matter". If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 20:55
Hi Jay, I agree with Tasha (and everyone else), remind yourself of your past successes and keep going... or, as your tagline says, "Relentless Forward Motion". The right opportunity comes at the right moment, and sometimes when you least expect it!
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 17:29
Hi Jay,
I've learned that you can't measure your self worth based on others' acceptance. Empower yourself with your past successes and accomplishments which contribute to your self worth and never give up. Discard all of the "negatives" in your life and as my grandma always said: "There is no such word as can't!"
I've learned that you can't measure your self worth based on others' acceptance. Empower yourself with your past successes and accomplishments which contribute to your self worth and never give up. Discard all of the "negatives" in your life and as my grandma always said: "There is no such word as can't!"
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 16:45
Rejection is a tough thing -- surely most people must find it this way. In the job search arena, at least in these times you know that competition is fierce, and a lot of talented folks are out of work and have been looking for a long time. So first thing, say "times are tough." It's the truth. Then my inclination would be to turn to something in my life that I do well where I can produce something and do something concrete -- create something (could be artistic, musical, technical, it can even be just being a good friend). You need to feel valued, so go to your comfort zone. It helps to talk about it too, like this! :-D
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 16:32
Hey there Jay. The way i try and deal with it is to reverse the psychology of the process. What I mean is that I consider their failure to consider and appreciate all that I bring to the table as both a missed opportunity for them and a sign to me that this opportunity is not positive for me or my life at this time. Then I move on to the next opportunity.
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 15:04
Anybody want to comment on how they deal with rejection. The reason I ask is that I have been dealing with it a lot in my job search. I think I am pretty good at it now! But I am always looking for new ways to approach it, because it always is difficult to take. And it this doesn't have to be specific to a job search, rejection happens in so many situations. I really want to hear how other people deal with it.
Tuesday, 06 April 2010 04:25
Well, let me pose this little diddy. Need some counsel here. I have been working with a group for nearly six months, initially on a temp basis, was encouraged to interview for the permanent CFO position, went through several interview and was told that i was one of two final candidates for the position and then was told, quite recently, that the search was going to be reopened as neither I nor the other finalist had "all of the qualities" needed for the position. But, would I stay on for awhile while a new search was conducted?
Alice Grevet on Monday, 05 April 2010 16:18Tasha Matz on Tuesday, 06 April 2010 14:36
Alice Grevet on Monday, 05 April 2010 16:18I would say stay on, because it shows you care, you stick with a thing, and who knows, maybe they won't find exactly what they are looking for and they will realize that you are there, learning and contributing, gaining experience and their eyes will be opened and they will hire you! What do you think? Show them that you care and that you really want it.
Tasha Matz on Tuesday, 06 April 2010 14:36I ditto what Alice said whole heartedly! You already have 6 mos of in-house experience which is invaluable. I would look much more closely at someone who loved their job and themselves so much that they were willing to stay during the search.
Monday, 05 April 2010 15:54
